This world teaches you to be a people pleaser. You have to be skinny, perky boobs, butt lift, God forbid you have wrinkles or grey hair, you have to keep it dyed or you will show your age. You have to make a certain amount of money too and heavens if you change your mind and quit your job and do something else. What will people think!!? Seriously…
I figured out a couple years ago that being a people pleaser does not make me happy and does not serve me. In fact, it is making me crazy trying to figure out what each person wants me to do or thinks I should do. Why the F do I care?? The only one I am accountable to is God. That is, it! Not even my husband. Yes, I people please him too… Thank God he loves me… He knows I’m finding my way.
I’m learning how to not be worldly but to walk with the only one who really loves me unconditionally. The only one. The one who created me… I have come to the realization that when you live for someone else so you can feel ok about yourself you are placing your own happiness in someone else’s crazy.
I struggle with being my authentic self out of fear of rejection and plain old insecurity. I have shut down and closed myself in and introverted myself to the point I struggle with being around others and letting them see the real me. Why has this happened? I don’t know and does it really matter?? The main thing here is getting out of the trap of making everyone else happy just so I can have a sense of doing the right thing and then feeling like shit.
Saying no is ok and not doing what others think I should is also ok!! Understanding why others roll their eyes at me and shut me out is not me it is them. I don’t have to sacrifice my happiness for anyone to feel ok!
This isn’t easy but it has gotten easier. I have now written about it and put it out there. It’s going to be ok. This is my choice and my life.